To be a bride every night, and a groom every day" is not a fantasy

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"To be a bride every night, and a groom every day" is not a fantasy,
but a true practice in my life at the Second Home of Lifechanyuan

Jiejing Celestial

June 30, 2025

（Edited by ChatGPT)

Before entering the Thai branch of the Second Home of Lifechanyuan, I was like most people—gazing longingly at the sacred temple of "love" and placing deep hopes in "marriage."However, reality, through cycles of love and conflict, slowly revealed the truth to me—not just through external disputes and contradictions, but through my own entanglement as well.Traditional gender relationships—especially those bound by the walls of marriage—often evolve, as passion fades, into the pressure of obligation, the erosion of freedom, and even the exhaustion of love.

I’ve witnessed too many couples shift from passionate lovers to cold warriors over time, transforming from intimate companions into each other’s judges.Former tenderness and vows gradually degenerate into silence and blame. Sexual intimacy devolves from joy into obligation, and even a transaction.

People often think, "we've changed," but in truth, it's the whole pattern, the system, and the psychological mechanisms of the relationship that are fundamentally flawed.

Marriage claims to be about "possession," yet human beings cannot truly be possessed.
It pursues "stability," but often at the cost of freedom.
It advocates "one person for life," yet never teaches us how to love continuously, or to renew that love.

I was once deeply troubled by such doubts and reflections:
—Are romantic relationships doomed to fade from freshness to dullness?
—Is sexual intimacy destined to be short-lived?
—Is love fated to grow old?

It wasn’t until I re-entered the life program of the Second Home of Lifechanyuan and came to the Thai branch that those troubling questions and doubts gradually settled into a deeper awareness through everyday experience.

Actually, this was not my first encounter with Lifechanyuan’s value of “Freedom of Emotional Love and Sexual Love”. I first came across it back in 2011, when I was initially introduced to Lifechanyuan. However, at that time, I wasn’t yet able to truly understand it. It wasn’t until 2023 that I began to personally experience and practice this value for the first time—and only then did I start to grasp its deeper meaning.

At first, I had my doubts:
Could this really work? Wouldn’t it lead to chaos? Wouldn’t it hurt people?

But as I let go of my preconceptions and opened myself to sincere experience, I finally understood:
This is not an excuse for indulgence—it is a profound form of spiritual practice, an art of love where soul and consciousness dance together.

Here,
There are no shackles of marriage, yet there is deep respect for the soul;
There is no forced loyalty, yet there is voluntary responsibility;
There is no possession or control, yet there is the free flow of trust.

I began learning to let go of deeply ingrained thoughts like “He is mine,” or “He can only belong to me.”
This is not suppression—it is insight.
True love has never been about clinging, but about appreciation and allowing love to bloom freely.

And within this increasingly clear and awakened awareness, I was delighted to discover:
Sexual love has not lost its sacredness due to freedom—on the contrary, it has become even more fresh and vibrant.

Why?
Because I have quietly changed.

When I stopped seeing sex as a means of personal satisfaction, and instead saw it as the flow of energy and the union of consciousness, lovemaking was no longer a mechanical act of the body—but a sacred baptism of the soul.

When I no longer yearned for others to love me first, but instead took the initiative to raise the frequency of love within myself, the energy of love began flowing from my heart like a stream—light and joyful.

As I followed the values of Lifechanyuan each day, practicing and cultivating, clearing away inner clutter and attachment, my inner world became increasingly clear and open. And so, with every interaction I had with others, it felt like a fresh encounter—like meeting them for the very first time.

I experienced a state I had never known before:
“Every night as a bride, every day as a groom.”

This is more than a renewal of the senses—it is a continual opening and awakening of the soul. With a fresh heart, I greet each moment;With gratitude, I welcome every approaching current of masculine energy. Even if the form appears similar, the experience deepens layer by layer—because my heart is no longer the same as yesterday’s.

I’ve come to realize that true “freshness” doesn’t come from changing partners or seeking new techniques, but from the elevation of my inner consciousness.When I meet another with a pure and open heart, he is no longer “mine” or defined by any label, but a freely flowing beam of life energy—meeting, resonating, and uniting with me in this present moment.

In this state, lovemaking is no longer just physical stimulation, but becomes a dance of energy, an awakening of consciousness. When I release expectation and control, and rest fully in each breath, each touch, then every encounter becomes a deep rebirth, a miraculous first night all over again.

Newlyweds every night, first meetings every day.
This is no longer about outward romance, but the genuine openness of the soul.
I am willing to receive the masculine with the softness of a bride,
and in the moment of being ignited,
I respond with the awakened presence of a groom.

This is not dependency, not possession—
but a free merging of two beings.
Not about taking, nor about pleasing each other,
but two souls mirroring one another in trust,
elevating each other through love.

In this process, I constantly witness my own heart—
its former selfishness, possessiveness, jealousy, and need for control—
these inner weeds begin to wither in the fire of love.

I no longer struggle with them,
but meet them with awareness and compassion—
and ultimately, transcend them.

And as the light of trust and freedom rises within me, the world outside no longer responds with habitual coldness, but with the echo of the soul.

In traditional marriage, passion often fades with time. But in the spiritual life of the Second Home, I’ve discovered that as my consciousness grows,
love and sexuality can become deeper, more real, more alive.

This is a love rooted in freedom, yet it is not chaotic.
This is a sexuality that is open, yet deeply responsible.
This is a relationship without possession—yet more stable than one based on ownership.

Within such a life program, I no longer fear the storms of the outside world. Even if there are few people around me, even if intimate interactions are less frequent, as long as I continue to cultivate myself and purify my heart, I can repeatedly experience the freshness and thrill of a “first time.”

I’ve finally begun to understand a little about the profound meaning of “Yin and Yang merging into Tai Chi.”
It is not merely the union of bodies,
but the fusion of souls, the blending of consciousness—
two complete beings meeting in love and dancing together in trust.

By balancing softness and strength within myself, I’ve begun to touch a sense of inner wholeness—what I understand as a “Small Tai Chi.”

I’ve started to let go of the need to change others or the world around me and to embody what Guide Xuefeng, the founder of Lifechanyuan, once said: "Tao learners are to change themselves, rather than change others or society. If you do not change yourself, society and people will never change. If you change yourself, society and others will change accordingly."

And so today, I am beginning to learn not to worry that love will fade, nor fear that sexuality will wither—
for I’ve come to see and experience that true vitality comes from a clear and awakened consciousness,
and true intimacy arises from the transparency and resonance of souls.

On this spiritual path of freedom in emotional love and sexual love,
I’ve learned how to love—
not only to love others,
but to love myself, to love the Greatest Creator,
and to love the ever-flowing essence of LIFE itself.

Every night is a first meeting.
Every morning is a new birth.
This is neither myth nor fantasy—
but the lived truth of my being.

I wish to continue walking this way of love in Lifechanyuan,
with a heart forever renewed like that of a newlywed—
carrying contentment, gratitude, and cherishment,
embracing every union of souls,
every heartbeat of rebirth.